The simple answer is YES! You need to learn not to take anything personally. It is very hard to learn this.

It is only natural. You aren’t a superhuman without feelings.

You have to take a step back and focus on THE WHY. You do this by taking a step back and realizing that your interactions with your step kids are based on their loyalty and how they feel for their parents. Try to understand that you represent what their mom isn’t doing. It could be as simple as you are driving them to their practices on your scheduled time, but that should be something their mom should be doing if their parents were still together.

You will learn that sometimes kids say the same stupid things to their bio-parents as they will to you. PAUSE before you react. Remember, it isn’t about you, but what you represent in your role as a stepmom.