I truly believe that you must try to bond with your stepchildren. Some children are easier to bond with than others.

I think the key is to find out what your stepchildren like or what hobbies they are into. Is there something that you can help them with from time to time, such as their homework? Or possibly you can find a hobby to like together.

Try to spend some one-on-one time with them. I bonded a lot with my step kids over the years in the car. It was picking them up from a practice or driving them to the orthodontist and just talking about daily things. Listening is a critical part of bonding with your step kids. If they feel they can be heard by you, that is so important to them.  It isn’t always going to be easy.

Try to make special memories with them while they are growing up.